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Post by smokie36 on Mar 7, 2017 12:40:04 GMT 7
I got dipped in the local pond. Even in the winter.  Soft southern poof....our local pond was frozen solid from Dec to Feb. The school class was pungent on the rare occasion the heating worked. |
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Post by buhi on Mar 7, 2017 12:47:06 GMT 7
Nothing hard to understand - what did your Grannie say about the situation? And I reckon you are making stories up now - now you are allocating yourself expertise in the relationship between your Gran and your Dad. You're the same guy that posted it was only the last time you saw him you felt reconciled with him ( the hug). I doubt you have a clue what went on between your Dad and Gran. Cos you can be assured something malfunctioned big time in the family dynamic. Was your Dad a stranger to you? Someone to be rebelled against? Someone you could be a stubborn and hurtful bastard to? I will try to answer your question. As said father worked way too much.Commuting to London every day, and home late. We did have a strained relationship, i was much closer to my mother and Gran. I have been criticized by my best friend, he who knew my father and i. Of some of my writings. To quote him, "You are too harsh on him,'. I think he is correct. There was a very strained relationship between my father and mother. In today's world they would have divorced. I sided with my mother. Is that helping you to understand? Further thoughts and it is not easy.Back to grandfather and grandmother; their relationship was rock solid. You could sense the devotion. I spent almost every school holiday staying with them and going on holiday with them. An escape if you like, from an atmosphere at home that was always charged and to be honest, unpleasant. |
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Post by me on Mar 7, 2017 12:50:54 GMT 7
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Post by smokie36 on Mar 7, 2017 12:56:54 GMT 7
Playing at the pond when it was frozen over was of course banned. Cue the bend over lads and lets see who has a wet arse. I got 200 lines for refusing the old pervert  . |
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Post by buhi on Mar 7, 2017 14:05:23 GMT 7
Conjecture, i will never know. I do know grandfather was not happy about my father marrying below himself.
I also know that gran offered to go into business, pastries, with my mother. I suspect father vetoed that.
It is a sad tale of war.
They married days before he was sent to fight in the desert campaign.Mother was i know, expecting the news of his death. Obviously he survived, but i think it changed him. He never spoke of it. I also think he had a few flings out there, i would be surprised if he did not. Just conjecture, i will never know. When i arrived, all i remember is him being buried in work. Post traumatic stress disorder possibly.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2017 14:31:01 GMT 7
Nothing hard to understand - what did your Grannie say about the situation? And I reckon you are making stories up now - now you are allocating yourself expertise in the relationship between your Gran and your Dad. You're the same guy that posted it was only the last time you saw him you felt reconciled with him ( the hug). I doubt you have a clue what went on between your Dad and Gran. Cos you can be assured something malfunctioned big time in the family dynamic. Was your Dad a stranger to you? Someone to be rebelled against? Someone you could be a stubborn and hurtful bastard to? I will try to answer your question. As said father worked way too much.Commuting to London every day, and home late. We did have a strained relationship, i was much closer to my mother and Gran. I have been criticized by my best friend, he who knew my father and i. Of some of my writings. To quote him, "You are too harsh on him,'. I think he is correct. There was a very strained relationship between my father and mother. In today's world they would have divorced. I sided with my mother. Is that helping you to understand? So I was right again? I'm not shocked. |
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Post by buhi on Mar 7, 2017 14:38:24 GMT 7
I will try to answer your question. As said father worked way too much.Commuting to London every day, and home late. We did have a strained relationship, i was much closer to my mother and Gran. I have been criticized by my best friend, he who knew my father and i. Of some of my writings. To quote him, "You are too harsh on him,'. I think he is correct. There was a very strained relationship between my father and mother. In today's world they would have divorced. I sided with my mother. Is that helping you to understand?s in my older years i began to So I was right again? I'm not shocked. If it pleases you to be right, fine. A dysfunctional family and the scars remain. That is indeed what i am writing about. Wish it had not been so. Wish, magic, religion. I will have non of it. Yes in my later years i began to understand. The hug. |
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Post by buhi on Mar 7, 2017 14:42:57 GMT 7
And the conjecture of father's possible flings, he was never shocked by me. Even when i took my now wife to meet him.I do give him credit for that.
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Post by buhi on Mar 7, 2017 16:05:39 GMT 7
And Bleth i do not mind your probing. It helps me to think, go where i would prefer not to go.Understanding my character, which i admit is faulted.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2017 16:16:46 GMT 7
Get off the fking drink.
You're tormenting yourself and its blatantly obvious.
I've read the straight buhi once. He went to visit the inlaws not long ago. Anyway , it was the best buhi I've read. Find that guy again.
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Post by buhi on Mar 7, 2017 16:34:27 GMT 7
Get off the fking drink. You're tormenting yourself and its blatantly obvious. I've read the straight buhi once. He went to visit the inlaws not long ago. Anyway , it was the best buhi I've read. Find that guy again. What point are you attempting to make? Tormenting myself? All hunky dory? Far too late for that. And i am sober, but about to go out for a drink. See you later. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2017 17:21:39 GMT 7
Listen to this while you are having a drink -
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