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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 26, 2020 19:52:17 GMT 7
Goodbye Khun Matt, best mother in law a man could wish for.
At peace now, 83 not a bad innings for the last of a generation,proper old skool, smoked like a chimney and swore like a trooper, kept a clean house, a great cook, and never once asked for a penny, got on with her like a house on fire, she had no time for fools.
I remember before getting married, she told me, take care of my daughter, and if she gives you any problems, belt her. Should be mentioned, no sin sot was paid, and no money was given to her each month, ffs, she was richer than me, after selling her property in soi pridi to the condo developers.
The mrs came home the other day, with a chanote, bank book and atm, and tossed them in the safe in the house, her freeloading family have been phoning every day, we cant find the chanote etc etc, the mrs tells them, keep looking.
Funeral costs, 50,000 baht, at a Mon temple in Samut Prakan, costs 7,000 baht per day. choice of cheapo 3 day funeral for 20,000 baht, average funeral for 35,000 5 day temple stay, or as befits her staus, 7 day temple stay.
It should be mentioned, this is a proper Mon funeral, there were no luk tung singers or morlam bands in attendance,there were no coyote dancers, there was no stuff your face on a sea food buffet, or drink till you are drunk as a skunk on a free flow of lao kao or chang.
All in all a very dignified affair, and yet again showing the Thais can do things right.
Posted for information purposes, for all you mugs who get hit up for 300k, 400k or 500k+ funerals.
See you on the other side Matt.
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Post by oldie on Oct 26, 2020 21:02:51 GMT 7
Sorry to hear rgs. My mother in law and I get on famously.
Your post reminded me of our wedding. Nothing fancy. But it was still memorable and very special. Twenty something years later we're still going strong while all the ones who had flash weddings are on their second and third marriages by now.
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Post by siampolee on Oct 26, 2020 21:29:22 GMT 7
Indeed as yet not lost wife's parents be a sad day as like already said mine are like the ones described above.
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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 27, 2020 20:41:21 GMT 7
^^^ thanks lads. Way to many stories to tell about her,but my favourite would be, the time she gave me shit for getting her mate "ee" Mom shitfaced, leaving her with no one to play cards with.
Down in darkest samut prakan, mrs was getting her hair done in some beauty shop, I was waiting outside, ee mom appeared, we got talking, just at that moment, a mobile yaa dong stall appeared, best 100 baht I have ever spent, 7 shots of yaa dong and a packet of those lung ripper cigarettes, krong thip, ee mom was shitfaced. Matt appeared looking for her friend and blamed me, I told her, blame your daughter, she is spending way too long in that beauty shop, the middle path was chosen and common ground was reached, my mrs was to blame.
Mrs came out the shop looking like a movie star, and her mother ripped into her, the mrs was shell shocked, to this day I dont think she has ever forgiven me.
Quite funny, me and her mother holding hands, smoking cigarettes, mrs looking like a movie star, and ee mom sleeping it off.
Dont even get me started on likay concerts.
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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 27, 2020 20:57:45 GMT 7
Sorry to hear rgs. My mother in law and I get on famously. Your post reminded me of our wedding. Nothing fancy. But it was still memorable and very special. Twenty something years later we're still going strong while all the ones who had flash weddings are on their second and third marriages by now. Well said, aint that the truth. Our wedding cost me, 10k baht, that was everything. That was 20+ years ago. |
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Post by siampolee on Oct 28, 2020 6:32:32 GMT 7
Our nuptials were indeed a cheap scene dozen cases of beer a case of Lao Khao and I think the food was around 2000 baht, much the same as rgs 10,000 baht. Mind you thinking back some 25+ years that was a bob or two up in darkest Isaan, Oh and no sin sot either.
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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 28, 2020 20:10:23 GMT 7
^^^ to be honest, for me, it was nothing to do with location, but common values.
I am not ashamed to say the first time I took my mrs out for a meal, she was chaperoned, not a problem, however it was what they ordered that made my day, they werent ordering lobster and crab or seafood, they ordered the cheapest dish on the menu, pad thai, no alchohol was ordered, water was ordered, not mentioned, we sat outside, they refused the offer to sit in the air con part of the restaurant, at a cost of 5 baht per person.
Years later, I told the mrs, tell your friend and her husband to come eat with us, I will pay, I settled the bill and went to get the car, the mrs told me later, her friend and husband offered my mrs some money to help with the bill, they reckoned it was too expensive. To this day both of them are still damned good friends, and always will be.
The warnings and red flags are always there.
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Post by oldie on Oct 28, 2020 23:30:07 GMT 7
I paid a sin sod for my misses and have no regrets. When I saw where they lived I gave them 100 000 to spend on the house, they extended it. A few years later I gave them another 100 000 and they put it towards some land in the wife's name. Then some time later another 100 000. I can't remember what they did with it but it would have been well spent, not p**sed against the wall. They have never asked for a baht, I'm happy to offer. Even to this day I help out with medical and dental bills, why not.
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Post by chiangmai on Oct 29, 2020 6:06:45 GMT 7
I paid a sin sod for my misses and have no regrets. When I saw where they lived I gave them 100 000 to spend on the house, they extended it. A few years later I gave them another 100 000 and they put it towards some land in the wife's name. Then some time later another 100 000. I can't remember what they did with it but it would have been well spent, not p**sed against the wall. They have never asked for a baht, I'm happy to offer. Even to this day I help out with medical and dental bills, why not. For sin sod I wrote a cheque for a million Baht which was promptly shown to everyone who attended the wedding, the words SAMPLE, NOT TO BE CASHED were written on the back plus the signature was of none other than Michael J. Mouse Esq, suitably scribbled to disguise that fact. In practice we built MiL a simple house which was actually great fun watching it come together, it changed the lives of that family remarkably. |
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Post by Mosha on Oct 29, 2020 11:26:10 GMT 7
My condolence CM
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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 29, 2020 21:03:47 GMT 7
I paid a sin sod for my misses and have no regrets. When I saw where they lived I gave them 100 000 to spend on the house, they extended it. A few years later I gave them another 100 000 and they put it towards some land in the wife's name. Then some time later another 100 000. I can't remember what they did with it but it would have been well spent, not p**sed against the wall. They have never asked for a baht, I'm happy to offer. Even to this day I help out with medical and dental bills, why not. Good man. I have nothing against sin sot per se, my objections are when it is used as a way to fleece some gullible farang and pass it off as Thai culture when it is nothing of the sort. I am watching right now two young Thais saving their money to be able to put a show of cash on show, they wont be married for at least another 4 or 5 years, both are at uni. It should be mentioned, both hold their money in seperate acounts, just in case. I vividly remember being at a family meeting a few years ago,the peasants from the north came to Bangkok bearing gifts of fine silk etc etc and got into sin sot negotations, a girl who regards me as her father (thats another story) asked me for guidance after everyone else had their say. The girl was at uni, lad was a nothing. I told her, tell them we dont want sin sot, tell the family to keep the money and use it to pay for an education for their lad, if he truly loves the girl, he will get an education and secure a proper job that allows him to take care of you. They both went their seperate ways, girl went to uni and enetered another world, somcahi went back to the farm, and never the twain shall met. |
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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 29, 2020 22:08:08 GMT 7
I paid a sin sod for my misses and have no regrets. When I saw where they lived I gave them 100 000 to spend on the house, they extended it. A few years later I gave them another 100 000 and they put it towards some land in the wife's name. Then some time later another 100 000. I can't remember what they did with it but it would have been well spent, not p**sed against the wall. They have never asked for a baht, I'm happy to offer. Even to this day I help out with medical and dental bills, why not. For sin sod I wrote a cheque for a million Baht which was promptly shown to everyone who attended the wedding, the words SAMPLE, NOT TO BE CASHED were written on the back plus the signature was of none other than Michael J. Mouse Esq, suitably scribbled to disguise that fact. In practice we built MiL a simple house which was actually great fun watching it come together, it changed the lives of that family remarkably. Good man CM. |
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Post by oldie on Oct 29, 2020 22:21:40 GMT 7
I worked with a chap years ago who's wife's parents weren't well and they kept flying off to Sydney to help them out.
One day he asked me "Do you mind if I ask you a personal question, do you help your wife's parents out?"
I looked him dead in the eye and asked "Do you?"
"Well that was a stupid question" he replied staring at his feet.
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Post by rgs2001uk on Oct 30, 2020 20:25:36 GMT 7
Well thats the fall out started and the fb comments, my mrs was referred to as, ee mia farang, because she didnt put her hand in her pocket and pay for the out of towners expenses to travel from isaan to bkk.
Bitching and moaning it cost them 5000 baht to go to their own mothers funeral, petrol costs, cost of hotel, loss of two days wages etc effin etc, if truth be told the freeloading kunts only showed up coz they thought they were in for a windfall.
The rottweiler, or bang kaew, has been sent for, some thai style justice is about to be dispensed, if lucky, the writer of the fb comments will only need a dentist visit for some new teeth, at worst a hospital stay, eff them, no wonder they are despised.
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