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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2015 15:01:15 GMT 7
Been married once - it was great for years then mai dee at the end. The divorce was messier than it had to be, but I suppose that's normal.
My Mum asked me the other week if I was interested in marrying again - I'm not. She's worried about me lacking companionship in later years - she's not aware that I love talking to myself.
"Why are you not interested in marrying again?" said Mum sitting at the dinner table -
"Agenda & restrictions."
"What about it?"
"Well, most women in my age group have families, whether it's their own kids, or grandchildren. Almost all would be reluctant or unable to to leave them to go traveling for extended periods. By marrying one of "these," women, I'd be taking on their restrictions - and I'm not up for that."
"And agenda?"
"Well, you never know what's going on. Am I to be the cash cow for later years? or will I find myself in my fifties going through the divorce courts and losing assets? I'm not up for that. Anyway, Mum - what's wrong with a modern marriage? All the companionship without the legal ramifications."
She nodded her head.
So I'm not against the idea of marriage, I'm just against the idea of taking on someone else's agenda or restrictions. BUT - I know there's a trade off - and I know a lot of you guys will have been through a western marriage or two, then been single for a while, then took up with a lady in marriage later. Every story is different - would any of you like to share why you entered into marriage second time round or later in life?
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Post by me on Sept 2, 2015 15:45:43 GMT 7
Been married once - it was great for years then mai dee at the end. The divorce was messier than it had to be, but I suppose that's normal. My Mum asked me the other week if I was interested in marrying again - I'm not. She's worried about me lacking companionship in later years - she's not aware that I love talking to myself. "Why are you not interested in marrying again?" said Mum sitting at the dinner table - "Agenda & restrictions." "What about it?" "Well, most women in my age group have families, whether it's their own kids, or grandchildren. Almost all would be reluctant or unable to to leave them to go traveling for extended periods. By marrying one of "these," women, I'd be taking on their restrictions - and I'm not up for that." "And agenda?" "Well, you never know what's going on. Am I to be the cash cow for later years? or will I find myself in my fifties going through the divorce courts and losing assets? I'm not up for that. Anyway, Mum - what's wrong with a modern marriage? All the companionship without the legal ramifications." She nodded her head. So I'm not against the idea of marriage, I'm just against the idea of taking on someone else's agenda or restrictions. BUT - I know there's a trade off - and I know a lot of you guys will have been through a western marriage or two, then been single for a while, then took up with a lady in marriage later. Every story is different - would any of you like to share why you entered into marriage second time round or later in life? Just think of the beatle he thought when his wife took him to court she would not have a leg to stand on. |
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Post by Soutpeel on Sept 2, 2015 16:26:28 GMT 7
to be honest never seem much point in this day and age for the concept of marriage, which is based in religious doctrine anyway.
in most countries a "common law relationship" is seen as a de facto relationship anyway
as to your mothers observation"She's worried about me lacking companionship in later years"
does a marriage certificate equal companionship ? think not
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Post by siampolee on Sept 2, 2015 16:55:44 GMT 7
Marriage is no more than a convenient arrangement we men make to get any daughters we may have off of our hands. The amusing part is the guy gets the girl pregnant and they are not married the father goes crazy. You go and stand before some old dolt in a frock and in a cold dank church who rambles on with a litany of archaic mumbo jumbo and the he says its fine for you to copulate with the girl. You don't copulate with the girl, her father then comes around creating merry hell. Total bloody insanity is what marriage is and truth be known most of us are already in the asylum of marriage or shacked up with a partner. The latter ''being shacked up'' being more of an open prison as opposed to the ''institution of marriage.'' Even in prison unlike marriage you get time off for good behavior!!  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2015 17:17:07 GMT 7
^^ "Open prison."  |
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Post by cc1 on Sept 2, 2015 21:33:55 GMT 7
Got married with 35 for the first time in my life...so far nothing to regret....
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Post by rubl on Sept 2, 2015 22:27:53 GMT 7
Marriage is no more than a convenient arrangement we men make to get any daughters we may have off of our hands. The amusing part is the guy gets the girl pregnant and your not married the father goes crazy. You go and stand before some old dolt in a frock and cold dank church who rambles on with a litany of archaic mumbo jumbo and the he says its fine for you to copulate with the girl. You don't copulate with the girl, her father then comes around creating merry hell. Total bloody insanity is what marriage is and truth be known most of us are already in the asylum of marriage or shacked up with a partner. The latter ''being shacked up'' being more of an open prison as opposed to the ''institution of marriage.'' Even in prison unlike marriage you get time off for good behavior!! You forgot to add the "been there, done that" and maybe a bit of "again and again" ? |
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