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Post by rgs2001uk on Apr 14, 2015 22:34:25 GMT 7
Dont forget to ask if the poor sadly departed was insured. Also, some of these villages have some sort of insurance scheme set up. 5-10k is taking the p**s. I have been to funerals where the whole shebang has cost about 25k baht. Storage in a fridge at a temple, 1,000 baht per day. Thus is the reason most have brief tamboons of this nature....because of the modern and unnecessary costs. The Wats are a business today. Bastards and charlatans.
One can't even consider any sort of spiritual ceremony without some sort of financial offerings. Remembering the good old days when an offering of food or sundries would be quite sufficient.
Becoming a monk is more akin to a profession [with salary] than a community vocation. A social fall back for those who can attain work.
And we wonder why many take out loans for the large tamboons [funeral, weddings, 100 day, etc]
Its all about face, got to show you have more than the average Somchai. Check out the details for sending Little Somchai off for a three week monk course. Edit, the mrs hasnt had a tamboon baan, the house hasnt been struck by lightening, fallen down, plauges of locust havent descended on the house, neither has it rained frogs.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2015 23:07:43 GMT 7
So, if I don't really know the person getting married, and I am going with my wife and kid, I would give 1000 baht for all 3 of us, in a village? Who was the invite addressed to? In the village, , 1,000 baht way too much, 500 plenty, thats if you even bother going to the wedding of someone you dont really know. Is it a family member, friend of your wife, or a work colleague of your wife? Get your wife or her mother to dig out the family ledger and find out how much this person gave at one of the events they attended, reply in kind with the same amount. Yes the amount is recorded, thats why the envelope addressed to you is the one thats used to return to the sender with the donation. One of the best I ever saw was an excell spreadsheet on a lap top right at the entrance to the event, the invited had been listed and each envelope donation was recorded, that way they could see who didnt donate, and who donated what, also gave an instant update on total amounf donated. Upcountry it will be done old skool with pen and paper in a ledger. Very informative, It was a query of general interest, not a specific upcoming situation
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Post by me on Apr 17, 2015 10:26:16 GMT 7
When it comes to funerals it does depend on how many days the Funeral will go over. Some are 3 days ... some last up to a week. If it's in a Village, a lot of the money comes back through donations. If you are the most respected (oldest, richest) person, sure, make a contribution. If you are very close to the deceased, then make it a decent one, I'm thinking in the order 5 - 10K But don't get conned into paying for the whole shooting match or too much. Funeral/cremation tamboons never last a week. 1-2-3 days max.
Made this up, didn't ya? To create this illusion that your knowledgeable.
I would be a bit slower on accusing people if I were you. Although now it is more general that they are short this was not the case a few years ago. Many did last a week,some more. Some of it depends on how long it takes for people to come to the area from distant places. With air transport this is now less. There was also social pressure from the higher echelons of society to have shorter celebrations as they were interfering with an organised workforce.
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Post by Soutpeel on Apr 17, 2015 13:31:20 GMT 7
When it comes to funerals it does depend on how many days the Funeral will go over. Some are 3 days ... some last up to a week. If it's in a Village, a lot of the money comes back through donations. If you are the most respected (oldest, richest) person, sure, make a contribution. If you are very close to the deceased, then make it a decent one, I'm thinking in the order 5 - 10K But don't get conned into paying for the whole shooting match or too much. Funeral/cremation tamboons never last a week. 1-2-3 days max.
Made this up, didn't ya? To create this illusion that your knowledgeable.
I must have been dreaming then last year when my Mrs' father died and all the "festivities" lasted 5 days before they put him in the oven this was down south So it seems at least with reference to what goes on in the South your talking through your bottom and shows your lack of knowledge
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Post by Mosha on Apr 17, 2015 15:46:30 GMT 7
How we do it. This covers all 3 BTW, and it's er indoors decision
1. Someone who is a friend of a friend. 200 Baht 2. A good friend 500 Baht. 3. Chinese table. 800 Baht. 4. Family. 1000.
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Post by rgs2001uk on Apr 17, 2015 15:55:34 GMT 7
Those Chinese tables aint cheap.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2015 16:29:25 GMT 7
How we do it. This covers all 3 BTW, and it's er indoors decision 1. Someone who is a friend of a friend. 200 Baht 2. A good friend 500 Baht. 3. Chinese table. 800 Baht. 4. Family. 1000. Chinese Table?
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Post by rgs2001uk on Apr 17, 2015 22:48:24 GMT 7
How we do it. This covers all 3 BTW, and it's er indoors decision 1. Someone who is a friend of a friend. 200 Baht 2. A good friend 500 Baht. 3. Chinese table. 800 Baht. 4. Family. 1000. Chinese Table? Its all Chinese food, have different options, but it can range up to 10 different servings, from starters to sweets. It works out at about a table of 8/10 people, 100 baht per head per course, so 10 people will be 1,000 baht per course, times 10 courses, 10k baht per table, this doesnt include whisky. Before giving, make sure you know where you will be sat, on the 'top table' with Johnny W, or in the cheapo seats with Sang Som.
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Post by Mosha on Apr 18, 2015 8:41:14 GMT 7
Its all Chinese food, have different options, but it can range up to 10 different servings, from starters to sweets. It works out at about a table of 8/10 people, 100 baht per head per course, so 10 people will be 1,000 baht per course, times 10 courses, 10k baht per table, this doesnt include whisky. Before giving, make sure you know where you will be sat, on the 'top table' with Johnny W, or in the cheapo seats with Sang Som. Not forgetting, that with the Chinese Table ones, they (at least down in Ranong) hire a venue.
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Post by rgs2001uk on Apr 18, 2015 15:07:40 GMT 7
Its all Chinese food, have different options, but it can range up to 10 different servings, from starters to sweets. It works out at about a table of 8/10 people, 100 baht per head per course, so 10 people will be 1,000 baht per course, times 10 courses, 10k baht per table, this doesnt include whisky. Before giving, make sure you know where you will be sat, on the 'top table' with Johnny W, or in the cheapo seats with Sang Som. Not forgetting, that with the Chinese Table ones, they (at least down in Ranong) hire a venue. The only ones I have been to have been in Bkk, held at whoevers house. These people provide everything, marquees, chairs and tables, serving staff and cooking staff. Just had a look at a flyer the mrs picked up from the last one we attended, it offers 3 options, starting from 500 baht per person, 800 baht and the most expensive is 1,000 baht per person. This does not include alcohol, but includes pepsi sprite fanta etc.
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Post by Mosha on Apr 18, 2015 20:20:36 GMT 7
The soft drinks at these does down here tend to be the cheap option. I take my own cola.
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