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Post by buhi on Jan 12, 2017 14:36:28 GMT 7
Well two posts which contradict the point you are trying to make.
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Post by buhi on Jan 12, 2017 14:48:03 GMT 7
I have four sons if I include my step son, who has been my son since he was six years old. Only later did he choose to live with us, spoilt silly by grandmother and wife's sisters, brothers. Two of the four are potentially very dangerous. One attacked his mother on more than one occasion and me several times,injuring us both. The other has never hit his mother or me. Which one is Thai?
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Post by buhi on Jan 12, 2017 15:06:12 GMT 7
For non Thai family members a brief explanation. The traditional Thai/Chinese family set up is the compound. All homes within the compound. Now with modern transport, the homes are scattered, but close. One is the main home, the patriarch's , although the wife rules the home. Of step son, he saw his mother almost every day, she spends as much time at the family home as she does here. So does her elder brother , who also has a home close by. Other siblings still live there. In fact until we bought this place we rented a house opposite elder brother's.That is how close knit the Thai family is.
I see young children around here who live with their grandparents. Very common, nothing unusual.
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Post by pathumseb on Jan 12, 2017 15:17:50 GMT 7
Looks like it could be a little more than just being 'spoilt'- a lot of behavioral and development issues seem to go unchecked in Asia- loss of face and all that no doubt. Have to day though, the Myanmar/Chinese kids at my school are a lot harder to control than the Myanmar kids. Overindulged? I would say so- perhaps their is something in the article after all.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2017 20:22:12 GMT 7
I read an article about this "Little Emporer Syndrone" just before I did my first trip to China in 2006. Was in Walmart of all places, in Kunming, and I actually saw a live performance of it. This young boy, about 3 or 4, threw this huge tantrum in the toy dept as I happened to walk through. The poor parents were at a loss, didn't seem to know how to handle the situation. I just stood there thinking - "So it does actually happen, just like the story said". Footnote - If you think the cheap crap we buy in places like Australia with "Made in China" stickers on it is rubbish, you should see the cheap crap they sell over there. I actually bought some of it to take home I was so amazed at it's crappiness.  |
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Post by buhi on Jan 12, 2017 21:37:36 GMT 7
I stated Thai, but I think it is universal. I don't run with the racist crap. Oh from Eton, old school tie. I remember when you were my fag.
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Post by buhi on Jan 12, 2017 23:57:41 GMT 7
I read an article about this "Little Emporer Syndrone" just before I did my first trip to China in 2006. Was in Walmart of all places, in Kunming, and I actually saw a live performance of it. This young boy, about 3 or 4, threw this huge tantrum in the toy dept as I happened to walk through. The poor parents were at a loss, didn't seem to know how to handle the situation. I just stood there thinking - "So it does actually happen, just like the story said". Footnote - If you think the cheap crap we buy in places like Australia with "Made in China" stickers on it is rubbish, you should see the cheap crap they sell over there. I actually bought some of it to take home I was so amazed at it's crappiness. I am still posting racist on this. You deal with kids, hell my whole professional life I have. But I had a son, who was out of control. I changed schools for him, to a trusted friend. She could not control him. I admitted defeat and with my influence had him placed in a psychiatric hospital/school. My second son works for a charity helping those with mental issues. He knows, bless him. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2017 8:05:45 GMT 7
Tough love is what is needed a good <duck>ing crack round the head.
It's illegal in the nanny state these days but it never did me any harm, also I didn't <duck> about after that.
Especially when my dad cracked me, that one really hurt.
Couldn't have wished for better parents.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2017 10:46:41 GMT 7
I would never have dared to carry on like that kid, my Mother would have killed me there and then. She never had to hit us kids much, just a glare and the threat was enough to keep us in line. I showed that video to my 3 yo boy last night and told him - "You do that, YOU DIE" ! |
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Post by buhi on Jan 13, 2017 12:58:58 GMT 7
I would never have dared to carry on like that kid, my Mother would have killed me there and then. She never had to hit us kids much, just a glare and the threat was enough to keep us in line. I showed that video to my 3 yo boy last night and told him - "You do that, YOU DIE" ! But you would not kill him and he knows that, I hope. I have never had a problem in the class room. Was in fact given the most wayward as I was known as an expert. But when mental issues come into play, then the canvas changes. The day I was at school teaching and a friend, head of the school my son attended phoned and asked me to get there fast. That was the end in many ways. A clout round the head would not have solved that. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2017 15:15:27 GMT 7
The way the adults react he has form for that. Neither of them appear shocked. Behavioural problems.
It goes without saying that none of us would have dreamt of doing that at that age. It just wouldn't have happened. And if it did, every Scottish mother I know would have knocked him/us for six.
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Post by me on Jan 13, 2017 15:35:26 GMT 7
The way the adults react he has form for that. Neither of them appear shocked. Behavioural problems. It goes without saying that none of us would have dreamt of doing that at that age. It just wouldn't have happened. And if it did, every Scottish mother I know would have knocked him/us for six. Just wait till the Scottish mother tried that..she would never get child protection off her back. You are living in the past. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2017 18:19:09 GMT 7
The way the adults react he has form for that. Neither of them appear shocked. Behavioural problems. It goes without saying that none of us would have dreamt of doing that at that age. It just wouldn't have happened. And if it did, every Scottish mother I know would have knocked him/us for six. Just wait till the Scottish mother tried that..she would never get child protection off her back. You are living in the past. Uhuhu, says the guy that's never lived a day in Scotland in his life. |
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Post by buhi on Jan 13, 2017 18:21:34 GMT 7
The way the adults react he has form for that. Neither of them appear shocked. Behavioural problems. It goes without saying that none of us would have dreamt of doing that at that age. It just wouldn't have happened. And if it did, every Scottish mother I know would have knocked him/us for six. No YOU would not have dreamt of it, neither would I. Did you read my post? The short time before that happened , with my son, I was in a conference about another child. Yes, one given to me to help. He responded well to me. Then he was provoked by , I will say it, a nasty other child. All hell broke out. We , yes not me alone, impossible, had to restrain him. I advised sending him to a correctional facility. His mother checked him out after a week. No school would accept him. Then, my son.I live that day every day. All friends helping and then that. I had to send him away. It helped, glad to say. He came through it, not sure I did. |
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